Date safely
Tips for a safe date.
Most dates are simply lovely. To keep it that way, we’ve gathered a few tips – for both sides of the Wildcard.
Before you meet
Take your time
A quick call or video chat before the date quickly shows whether the chemistry is there – and whether the person is who they say they are.
Keep private info private
Only share your address, workplace and daily routine once you really know someone. Only show your mobile number on your profile if you feel comfortable with it.
No money, ever
Anyone asking you for money, gift cards or crypto – whatever the story – is trying to scam you. Report the profile.
On the date
Meet in public
For a first date, choose a busy place like a café or a bar. Only offer places on your profile where you feel safe.
Someone knows where you are
Tell a friend when, where and who you’re meeting. The calendar file for your date is easy to forward.
Your own way there and back
Get there and back on your own, and have a plan B in case you want to leave early.
Keep an eye on your drink
Only accept drinks directly from the staff and don’t leave them unattended. You decide how much you drink.
Trust your gut
If something feels off, you can leave at any time – no explanation needed. Canceling is always okay.
Respect boundaries
Saying yes to a date isn’t saying yes to more. Consent has to be clear and can be withdrawn at any time.
Especially on wildcard
Hand out cards mindfully
Hand Wildcards over in person and only to adults. Personal cards with their own number show you which card led to a date.
Deactivate a card
Does a contact feel strange? Deactivate that Wildcard or pause your whole profile – in one click.
Reporting helps everyone
Every profile has a “Report profile” link at the bottom. Reports are anonymous, and we review them as quickly as possible.
If something happens
Emergency
If you’re in immediate danger in Switzerland: police 117, ambulance 144, European emergency number 112.
Help & support
Victim support in Switzerland (opferhilfe-schweiz.ch) offers free, confidential advice. The helpline “Die Dargebotene Hand” is available around the clock at 143.